Sunday, August 31, 2008

AUGUST 31, 2008

Stand Up 2 Cancer

http://www.standup2cancer.org/

I ask you all, please visit this website. The three major television networks are banning together this coming Friday, September 5th, in an effort to raise money for cancer research. The reason for this: government spending and public dollars for cancer research is dwindling, and money is needed to continue the research and development of new ways to battle cancer.

Money raised from this hour-long show will go not only to the more conventional methods of cancer research, but money will also be provided to some of the more out-of-the-box research. Who knows - maybe some seeminglyunrealistic cancer research will result in the cure for colon cancer, breast cancer, etc. It's those odd, unknown ideas that often bring the best results.

Please consider donating to this cause. You can now say, without a doubt, that you know (and hopefully love...) someone with cancer. I read a statistic the other day that said 41% of people in America will be affected by cancer personally. Wouldn't you like to be able to say that you donated $1, $5, $10, or $500 to this cause, and to know that your money helped researchers find the cure that allowed you and your family to be cancer-free in the future?

Please, if only for me, consider not only watching this show, but donating to the cause. Any funds that can be raised will help me, help your friends and/or family that are affected by cancer, and may someday help you fight this disease. This is very important, and your money is going to the research companies directly - none of this money will be kept as "administrative" funds, as some of the races and such do. Please, watch and donate. My life is in your hands....
Comments:
Kevin said...
For those that can't donate money, there are other ways you can help. You can donate your computers extra energy. A project sponsored by IBM called "World Community Grid" uses your computers idle processing units to process cancer research data and reports this data back to the grid (as frequently or infrequently as you like). It runs in the background when your computer is not in use and doesn't interrupt your normal computing activities.

If there is alot of interest in this we can set up a specific group (a group of computer statistics) dedicated to Michelle.

I have been running it for over 5 years now, and my computers have alone processed 200,000 units (or cells) to aid in cancer research.

You can read more here:

http://www.worldcommunitygrid.org/projects_showcase/hcc1/viewHcc1Main.do
September 2, 2008 at 6:58 AM
Blogger Kevin said...
The URL appears to have gotten cut off. You can read more by going here:

http://www.worldcommunitygrid.org/

And clicking on the "Help Conquer Cancer" link.
September 2, 2008 at 7:00 AM
Blogger Kevin said...

I created a group for everyone to join to support Michelle.

Click here to join: 
Michelle WILL Win

Group Statistics Statistics
September 3, 2008 at 11:54 AM

Saturday, August 30, 2008

AUGUST 30, 2008

Port Placement - DONE!


Dad and I went to the hospital yesterday for the port placement. It went well, and was so much easier than the last time. Probably had as much to do with the fact that I knew what to expect as it did the hospital (I prefer the one I went to yesterday to the one I had the port placed in originally).

We got there at about 1pm, and got registered (is it bad when the registration people start to recognize you?!?!). We got escorted to the prep area, and I put on the fashionable hospital gown (this one was a classic grey with a maroon pattern - chic!) and the sexy hospital socks. The nurse, who was wonderful, put the IV in (and I didn't scream once!) and did the blood work needed to perform the procedure. The really good news - my CBC (complete blood count) was within *normal* range, meaning that I had the same blood levels as someone NOT fighting cancer. Woo!

Once they get all the prep work done, the dr that is performing the procedure comes in to talk with me about risks, etc. He tells me that they are going to put a port in, and I asked if it was the same PowerPort that was in before. He kind of looked at my and asked if that's what I wanted. I told him that I didn't have a preference, but wanted to know the pros and cons of both. Apparently, there isn't much difference except that the PowerPort has three nodules on it that allow the nurses and doctors accessing the port to feel where the center is. The regular port doesn't have those guides, but isn't any more difficult to use. Hmph. The major difference? The regular port is about half the price of the PowerPort. Apparently, the PowerPort is utilized more in people that are going to have multiple MRIs or CAT Scans, b/c the PowerPort allows for the injection of those dyes and chemicals to perform those procedures. Since I don't have those things in my future (God willing), I made the call that they just put the regular port in. This worked out well because the hospital was out of the PowerPorts, and I would have had to reschedule the procedure. And, you know me - I already had a needle/IV in me. Gosh darn it, they were going to do this procedure come hell or high water.

So, the nurses call the drs office, and of course, my oncologist isn't there. Hmph. The nurses at the hospital talk with the nurses at the drs office, and they concur that there isn't any reason for me to have the PowerPort. SWEET! We are all on-board, and ready for transport to the procedure room. And, off I go.

Got in there, and supposedly, they were going to put me into a "twilight sleep." Well, let's just say that while this did relax me considerably, I wasn't sleeping. I was awake during the whole thing, which was okay b/c they injected the area with a pretty strong local anesthetic, so I didn't feel anything but tugging and pulling. They actually said that of all the ports they put in that day (isn't it sad that they have to put that many into people?!?), I was the only one who didn't snore on the table. LOL!

Overall, this procedure was a piece of cake. I was awake during and afterwards, and while I was tired, that's about it. I am super sore today, but nothing that a little Tylenol isn't helping. I don't remember being this sore with the last port, but then again, I was only a week and a half out of the colon surgery at the time, so I probably didn't notice the pain as much.

I go into the office on Tuesday for chemo, and an appt with the PA, Bill. As I said, I am sore and stiff, but I am feeling well.

Okay - the one thing that surprised me....when they were discharging me, the recommendation to keep the bandages clean? Glad Press 'N Seal. Yup, the stuff that you get in the store next to your wax paper and your tin foil. Apparently, this stuff sticks REALLY well to skin, and will help seal off the area to prevent water from getting at the incisions. Who knew? Not me, that's for sure. I will let you know if it works.

Oh - the other thing. Because I have started to have some scar tissue grow up in the area of my previous port, they moved this new port into an area just to the right of my other incision. So, Jen and Andy, when you are coming up with renderings for my tattoo, you will now have to include TWO 1 1/2" incisions, side by side. I will send you pictures, once the bandages are off. Now I will have two battle wounds (at least) from this war. Ha - what kind of official does that make me? I'm not up on my military rankings. Anyone?

Friday, August 29, 2008

AUGUST 29, 2008

Port Placement Today

Well, today I get my port back in. Appointment is scheduled for 1pm arrival, 3 pm procedure, with an hour for the procedure and an hour for recovery. I was talking with a friend this morning, and I realized that I am anxious to get this in, mainly b/c I want to get started with chemo again. Getting back into a chemo schedule and routine means that I am that much closer to the end. Hopefully.....

I have had to come to some startling realizations since my admission to the hospital. I think the most important is that I don't have any control over what is going to happen with my chemo routine. I had set in my head this concrete deadline of November 20th, which would have been my last chemo day before the hospital stay happened. Now, because of the change in schedule, it's looking like I am going to be into December before all is said and done, chemo wise. And, having said that, there is always the possibility that we have to continue chemo after that point, because of any new growths that might be found. While I don't cherish that thought, I know that I will do what I have to to make sure that I can get to that all-important 5 year remission point. 

So, for me, the biggest thing is that I have had to learn the very humbling lesson that I don't have any control over what happens regarding this cancer and the schedule. What I do have control over is my choices on how to view what happens. Do I laugh about it? Cry about it? Both? Yes. I have learned that I don't always have to be the strong one, the rock for everyone to lean on. I am the one battling this disease, and I (every once in a while) need someone to lean on. And, I am so lucky to have many of those people. Levi, for one. My parents. My brothers. My friends and extended family. You all have been amazing sources of strength and inspiration. It seems like some of you find me to be an inspiration, and yet, I find that you are my inspiration. I have so much to do with all of you (Vegas, girls?), and that is what helps me get through the tough times.

Now, I will say this. This past week, which back in the day would have been a chemo week, I have felt wonderful. Still a little tired, but the cold sensitivity has diminished, at least in my throat. I even had a drink with ice yesterday - woo! I have felt normal again, and it's been an uplifting experience. Maybe I needed this, to give me the time and the energy to get the fight back. Maybe my body needed this break, to be able to build back up the immunity it needs to fight off the bad things that happen during chemo. And, maybe mentally I needed this time to regroup, to recenter myself, and to deal with these emotions that I haven't been able to, up until now. 

Agh - cancer sucks. But, it allows you to see things in a whole different way. And that, my friends, is one of the so-called silver linings. I will post tonight or tomorrow to let you know how the procedure goes. 

Do you have any plans for the weekend? I have come of my best friends, Jason and Jeff, coming into town to visit. I can't wait - it's been over a year since I saw them. They arrive in the Valley tomorrow, and we plan on getting together on Sunday to hang out. YEAH!!!!

Comments:


OOOOOOH, lucky you! Give Jason & Jeff big hugs and smooches from me and tell them that I miss and love them even if I have sucked at keeping in touch lately.

J&J and ice for your Coke coke again - dang, you're having a good week! ;-)

And hey... it's August... we all totally missed our 12 year anniversary!!! ONE DOZEN BABY!!! Luv & hugs! :)
August 29, 2008 at 2:26 PM

Thursday, August 28, 2008

AUGUST 28, 2008

A couple of wonderful resources....


I wanted to let you all know about some wonderful resources that I have come across in mu journeys. I thought they might be especially useful if you are either battling cancer yourself, or if you know of someone that is battling cancer. 

The first is through the American Cancer Society, and is called "Look Good, Feel Better." This is a program put on to help cancer patients (women) through the emotional and physical changes that chemo and radiation bring on, such as changes to skin, acne, hair loss, etc. This is about a two hour program, and provides women with guidance regarding make-up application, wigs, scarf techniques, etc. I attended this through my oncologists office, and was even given a large bag of cosmetics free. During the presentation, there is a licensed beautician (I am pretty sure that's her title) that walks you through the application techniques for the makeup provided, and everyone walks out of there looking fabulous. They also bring (courtesy of the American Cancer Society) various styles, colors, and hair lengths of wigs. I didn't realize this, but the ACS will actually provide chemo patients with a complimentary wig. You just need to contact them. Such a great service! When I went into this presentation, I was a little hesitant - I didn't know anyone, and was unsure as to what would happen. After two fun-filled hours, I had laughed with women of all ages, races, and cancer types, I had cried with them, and I had bonded with them. It was a wonderful experience, and I left there feeling revived and renewed in my fight for my life.

Another service that is provided to cancer patients is called Cleaning For A Reason. This is an organization that sets you up with a local maid service, who will come out to your home and do an overall cleaning once monthly for four months while you are in the midst of chemo. Let's face it - when you are undergoing chemo treatments and fighting cancer, dusting your knick-knacks really heads to the bottom of your priority list. This company has a website, 
www.cleaningforareason.com, and I have my first cleaning set up with them for the end of the month. (I would do it sooner, but my wonderful friend Sharon has provided us with a deep-cleaning through another maid service, and they are coming next week - yeah!!! Thanks, Sharon!) I just think this is a wonderful service, and should be made aware to all cancer patients. And, if you are not currently in a cancer battle but want to support someone, you can donate to the organization on their website. A great gift for anyone fighting this disease, to be sure.

So, there you go. Please let me know if you have any questions. I have been so blessed with what I have been given throughout this fight, and I feel like I need to share those insights with others, so that I might help make their battle with cancer just a little easier.

Thursday, August 21, 2008

AUGUST 21, 2008

Port Placement Scheduled for Next Week


Just got off the phone - my port placement is scheduled for next Friday, 1pm arrival. 3 pm procedure. This one should be easy. While I don't fancy the idea of them poking me with more needles, at least I know what to expect, and I know that recovery will be minimal and easy. Woo!

I restart chemo on 9/2, which is the day after Labor Day. Ick, but again, needs to happen. And, I found out yesterday, I may have to re-do Round 5. I am going to be bummed, but whatever needs to happen to kick this cancer's ass is what I am going to do.

Can you tell I am feeling better?!?!?!

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

AUGUST 20, 2008

Septic, baby!


Dad and I went to the drs for a follow up this afternoon. All went well - BP and temp are back to normal, and my incision from the port removal is looking good. Everyone was glad to see me, and I got several hugs from the drs, the nurses, and the office staff. It was good to be back, and not be sick. 

Basically, the consensus is that I was, and I quote, "septic". Basically, my body was full of infection, and couldn't fight it off. This led to an abundance of gross-ness in my system that caused my body to start acting up. As Levi said, it could have been deadly. Thank goodness it wasn't. 

At this point, all signs indicate that the port may have been infected for a while, and this was the culmination of the ickiness. Apparently, there are three potential issues for patients going through chemo - port infection, pneumonia, and UTI/bladder infection. Fun things to look forward to. So, I need to be much more diligent about letting them know about symptoms, odd happenings, and anything unusual that I notice. 

I had to laugh - the PA that I saw, Ilene, asked if I was acting normal yet. Well, that's really such a subjective term. What's normal, really? For me - yes, I was acting normal. If you make that comparison to other people in the world, well, then, we might have some room for debate. :-)

Monday, August 18, 2008

AUGUST 18, 2008

Long story

Well, here is the LONG story of my hospital visit this week. It's been a crazy 5 days, so this might take a while.

A couple of caveats before I start - remember that I have chemo brain, and won't always remember the details. And, remember that I was pretty drugged up for the first couple of days of my hospital stay. Details might be sketchy, and might be revised as Mom and Dad read through this and tell me what a big dumbass I am. Just thought I would let you know.... :-)

Tuesday, I started round 5 of my chemo. All seemed to be going well - the side effects are of course getting worse as time goes on, b/c the treatments and meds are cumulative. The nurses did say that my white blood counts were low, and I am going to have to start up on Neulasta, which will boost my body's production of white blood cells. Fun. Tuesday night, I was exhausted. I mean, I went to be at 6:30 pm. And, didn't wake up until 8am the next morning. Mom and Dad came in to check on me, and apparently I was burning up. Dad had noticed that I was warm on Tuesday night, but we attributed it to the chemo. Wednesday, however, I was really hot, and I was lethargic. I didn't even have the energy to take a shower - Mom had to bathe me. (For those of you who know me, I didn't even put makeup or jewelry on - that's how bad I was feeling!) Dad and I headed to the drs office for day two of this round of treatment, and as I walked into the office, everyone kept asking me if I was okay. I tried to reassure them that I was fine - but, alas, I wasn't. When they called me into the chemo room, they took my temp and vitals - I had a 99.6 temp and my BP was low - think 80/50. Not good. They took me back to a room to examine me further, and my temp spiked - to 101.9. The dr looked me in the eye and said "You're going to the hospital." Okeee-dokeee.

So, here's a first for Michelle. In all my life, I have never ridden as a passenger in an ambulance. Until Wednesday. They called out the whole crew - I had a fire truck (yellow - woo!), a rescue truck, and an ambulance. And, there had to have been 25 people there to take care of me. The funny part - I was less than a half-mile from the hospital. You can literally see it from the parking lot of the doctor's office. But, I had to go the way the dr said, so off I go for my short-distance ride to the hospital.

And, into the ER. Dad had come with me in the ambulance, and Levi, Mom, and my poor sister-in-law Ruth (who was visiting from WI) were driving in from the house. The drs and nurses there were great. They were obviously worried, and they started administering the IV antibiotics. Well, because I can't do things the easy way, I had a reaction to the drugs they gave me. I had been sleeping on the oh-so-comfy ER hospital bed, and woke up with this intense itching on my scalp. All over my scalp. Like, I was digging and drawing blood, the itching was that bad. And, Mom and Dad said my upper torso and head were bright, cherry red. Great. We called the nurses, and they slowed the IV drip and administered Benadryl. By the way, Benadryl is like the cure-all drug for any reaction. It's awesome. And, it makes you sleepy when they give it to you via IV. A nice side effect when you aren't feeling well. 

Anyways, they admitted me that evening, and started the blood work. They took what seemed to be a TON of blood, but the tech (whose name I don't remember, but was very nice, and cute to boot!) said it was only a few tablespoons. The blood work was mainly to check my levels of everything, and to see if I had a blood infection. They took it from two different injection sites, and put some of the blood into these liquor-looking bottles (I remember joking that they were whiskey and vodka) - apparently, these bottles contain particular food for a certain bacteria - if the bacteria grows in these circumstances, you are positive for this infection. Luckily, after three days of waiting, I found out that wasn't the case. And, I get ahead of myself. 

So, they admitted me to the hospital on Wednesday night. At this point, we are told that there are a couple of potential reasons for my issues. Bladder/UTI infection (which was the leading contender until Friday), tumor fever (this is where a tumor gets broken up by the chemo, and your body is attacking the tumor cells, causing a heightened fever), a viral infection, or a blood infection. Woo. 

Thursday, I really don't remember too much,expect sleeping. They took more blood, administered more antibiotics (different ones, this time, to avoid a recurrence of the reaction I had the day before), and basically monitored my vitals, which hadn't yet stabilized. 

Oh - Thursday early morning, they took me for an iodine contrast CT scan of my chest, to determine if I had a pulmonary embolism (yikes). Luckily, I didn't. They also took me in for an X-Ray of my port, because they couldn't access it, and couldn't get anything into or out of it. Generally, the port is great because they poke you once, and boom - they can pull blood from there, they can administer meds and chemo, etc. Great, since I HATE being poked with a needle. I mean, I would rather be run over by a car. So, in the ER on Wednesday, the ER nurse was having trouble getting blood from the port. What that meant for me was that, in addition to the 3 or 4 needle pokes I had already received, they were going to re-access my port, which means pulling the current needle and putting a new one in. Well, that didn't work. And, the sadistic nurse didn't use any numbing solution (which they nurses usually do). So, they had to pull all of my blood work via needle. I was not impressed. 

Okay, so Thursday morning, they take me in for an X-Ray of my port - they were going to inject a radioactive something-or-other in it, to see where the flow stopped. Unfortunately, they weren't even able to get the injection in there. So, the nurse had to re-access the port again. (She used numbing solution, bless her heart.) But, alas, nothing worked. The solution they came up with was to use what they called cath-flow, which meant using a medication to break up what they assumed was a build-up of (hopefully) biodegradable material (blood platelets, mineral deposits from the meds, etc.). Unfortunately, after 7 hours, this didn't work. Not even a little bit. Their solution - let's access the port again. At this point, I put my foot down. I was up to over 12 needle pokes by then, and wasn't impressed with the thought of them trying for 13. They had already had to redo my IV that day, since the first once failed. And, my port area was pretty tender - all of the fussing and poking and prodding to try to get it to work had bruised the skin, and the thought of them poking me again had me furious. Obviously, the damn thing wasn't working. I told the nurse that they weren't going to do this, and if it wasn't working, let's get the damn thing out. She insisted that it would work, and I asked her - if something in your car isn't working, and you try three times to fix this part, and each time, it doesn't work, wouldn't you replace it?!?! Well, yes. Well then, let's replace this part. I can't handle going through the waiting anymore. So, the drs agreed, and that leads me into Friday.

Friday, I remember feeling really defeated. No one had any answers about my infection or the cause. No one could tell me what was wrong with me. All they kept doing was coming in, taking my vitals - which weren't great, taking more blood, poking me with needles, and feeding me gross hospital food (actually, it wasn't too bad). I was depressed. No doubt. I was exhausted, feeling like this wasn't a fight I could take on. I actually considered telling the doctors to forget the chemo, just fix this, take the port out, and I will deal with whatever happens later. I was so tired, and tired of not having any answers. Luckily, Levi kicked my butt, woke me up to reality, and we talked for a long time about what needs to happen to get to the other side of this battle. Then, as if Mother Nature hadn't already been cruel enough, I got my period. REALLY?!?! Somehow, I felt like fate was playing some sort of mean joke. I hadn't had it in months, and figured that, as one of the side effects of chemo, I was okay with going into early menopause. Nope. Had to deal with that, too. (And, of course, this didn't help my mental state any.) 

Anyways, Friday afternoon, they sent me down to radiology to remove my port. Thank goodness. Once, this happened, all of my vitals started to stabilize, my infection seemed to disappear, and I started to feel better. Apparently, my port was infected somehow (we will never know truly how this happened), and this is what wreaked all the havoc on my body. Saturday, my stats were stable all day and both my oncologist and my infectious diseases doctor (wow, I was pretty freaked out when I found out that I was involved with infectious diseases) both said I was okay to be released, but I had to be released by my internal meds dr at the hospital. They were still administering the antibiotics (orally this time, since the second IV ALSO failed), and wanted to monitor me for a bit longer.

Sunday, I am ready to go home. I sat there as patiently as I could (which wasn't very patiently, I admit), waiting for the dr. Wouldn't you think a dr would do rounds in the morning? Nope - she didn't get there until 5 pm. Dad came up to the hospital to wait with me, since we all assumed that the dr would be there earlier rather than later, and I would be out before lunch. Instead, dinner was being delivered as I was allowed to finally escape. We sat in the room all day long, waiting for that dr. We watched about 6 episodes of MythBusters on the Discovery Channel, and just paced. ARGH! Very frustrating. But, we finally got to go home.

And, then I walked in the door to find out that the washing machine had flooded the laundry room, the front hallway, my parent's bedroom, their closet, the linen closet, and part of the kitchen. Mom and Levi and the kids had spent the better part of the day cleaning the house, getting it all nice and pretty for my homecoming. And then, that happened. Luckily, they were home and caught it, and the damage is minimal. Loss of life was contained mainly to some cardboard boxes, but the rug in the hallway and the wood flooring in my parents room was soaked. As I sit here, we are still working to dry the house out. There are all kinds of fans running, working to dry out the floors. It could have been a ton worse, but it was just another thing to happen this week. 

So, I spent 5 days in the hospital this past week, and am finally home. I spoke with my oncologist about what kind of effect this would have on my prognosis for curability from the cancer. He told me to calm down - this kind of infection happens, and isn't uncommon. As far as the chemo, we will get another port put in next week sometime, and start chemo after that. This will have no bearing on my capability to recover from colon cancer, and I will start back up with round 6 of chemo, which is my halfway point. Yeah! 

The bad news - I was in the hospital. The good news - I was where I needed to be to be taken care of properly. We found it early enough to get it out, and to recover well. I will be returning to work tomorrow, since Dr. Rakkar was VERY adamant about me returning to a normal schedule as soon as possible. 

I think that's it. I might add more later, as things come back to me. Overall, it was quite an experience. I don't hope to have it happen again, but it's a good lesson. If you are undergoing chemo, and think you have a fever, TAKE YOUR TEMP! Then, call the dr. This is very important. 

Oh - final needle poke count, when all was said and done? Between 16 and 18. Are you freaking kidding me??!

Comments:

You are too freakin' funny! Welcome home babe! I was so relieved to hear it was the port when Mom wrote last week. Hopefully you're settled into somewhat of the routing again. Call the maids to help clean up the mess - I can't believe that happened! Argh! Never a dull moment, huh? Anyhoo, so thankful you're back home safe and sound! Love you!!!
August 20, 2008 at 8:17 AM

Later:



Well, I figured that I will post two versions - the short story, and the long story. If you are intrigued enough by the short version, you can take the time to read the long version.

And what story, you might be asking yourself, would that be? Why, that would be my hospital visit this week.

First things first - I am okay, home and happy.

Basically, I started chemo last Tuesday (remember, each round of chemo is a three day ordeal), and was kicked down pretty good by the side effects. I was exhausted almost immediately, and started to have a bit of a fever. By Wednesday, the fever had spiked, and when I went into the oncologist's office for day two, they sent me to the ER in an ambulance. My BP was really low, my temp really high, and I was lethargic. At the ER, they determined that I had some sort of an infection, and admitted me. After a couple of days of antibiotics, I was feeling better, but stil lnot great. They powers-that-be determined that I had an infection in my port (which is the unit they installed in my chest, just under the skin, with a catheter into a vein so that they can administer the chemo and get blood without having to go through a traditional IV each time), and they removed that on Friday afternoon. Once that was out, I started to feel MUCH better. I spent yesterday pacing the hospital floor waiting for a doctor to show up to release me.

So, I am feeling better, and all is well. I have a follow-up appt with my oncologist this week to talk about getting another port put in, starting chemo back up, etc. The good news is that this won't have any effect on my long-term prognosis for my cancer, and I won't have to re-do round 5 of chemo (since I missed a day). The doctor that I met with in the hospital seemed to feel that this isn't an uncommon thing, and that there was nothing really to worry about. Apparently, this happens.

There you go - the short version. Have I satisfied your curiosity? If not, check the next post - it's going to be the long version of the story. And, boy, some of the things that happened over the past 5 days.....well, you'll just have to read. :-)

Aren't I tricky???

Monday, August 11, 2008

AUGUST 11, 2008

Round 5 - Get ready!


So, my first week of work went really well. It was so nice to get back to work, and finally feel like I was living for me, instead of letting the cancer determine what I was doing. It's nice to be able to feel "normal" again.

This week, my sister-in-law, Ruth, is in town. It's nice to see her, and she will help with things around here during this week. The kids really enjoy spending time with her. Well, so do we!

Tuesday starts Round 5- that means I am one more treatment from the halfway point. I can't wait. That point seems like a mountain to me - it's like, once I am at the halfway point, I am on the downhill slide. What a huge goal for me to reach - it seems like just yesterday, I was at round 1 or 2. Now, I am almost to the mid-point.

I didn't rest as much as I should have this weekend. It's so hard to rest when I finally feel good enough to do something, but I need to rest because that allows my body to gather the strength to heal from treatment. I understand that, logically, but physically - well, when I finally feel good enough to cook/clean/do laundry, I can't. Very frustrating. But, I know what I need to do.

I think that's about it. I wish I had a way to post to this blog just little blurbs - I think of things, and go - wow, that would be a good thing to share with everyone. Then, boom - off into chemo-brain-land it goes, never to be heard from again. ARGH! I know about Twitter, but we don't have texting on our phones. So, can't do that. Hmph. Oh well.

Off to group and then to pick up Julia and Kevin from daycare. I can't wait to hear how her first day of first grade went.

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

AUGUST 5, 2008

Am I an inspiration?


So, today at work I got this wonderful IM from a co-worker and friend in Albuquerque. He IM'd me to welcome me back (thanks, Gomez!) and told me that I was inspiring to him, in that I gave him reason to be inspired.

I thought that was such an interesting statement. Can I possibly have that kind of effect on someone? Can I not only inspire someone to fight this awful disease, but to be a better person, too? Maybe that's part of the "reason" I was chosen to fight this battle. Perhaps I can use my experience to help other people see the beauty in their world. To take time to stop and smell the roses, so to speak.

I am not aiming to be an inspiration. I am not aiming to be a hero. I am not aiming to be anything honorable or wonderful or worthy. The only mission I have is to beat this thing, and to be able to get back to my life. Stopping everything on May 23rd was one of the hardest things I have ever had to go through. Hearing that cancer diagnosis, and the ensuing barrage of medical terminology, appointments, and expectations is completely, utterly overwhelming. It's the most difficult thing to hear.

Generally, we expect that we are going to be on this planet forever. We all are aware of our limited lifespan, and yet (generally) we choose to ignore that information, instead living a sort of blissfully ingnorant existence. However, hearing the word cancer really makes your mortality hit home. What if? What if the treatments don't work? What if they don't see everything and the cancer continues to grow? *What if* becomes a mantra.

Until you realize that you can't live your life by *what ifs*. Whether or not you have cancer, you can't spend your life wondering what would happen if you had made this choice, that choice, or another one. Please don't sweat the small stuff. It's not important. No one is going to remember if your hair, makeup, clothes, etc. are perfect that day. Honest. People don't remember the details in the long run - they remember your persona. Were you nice? Kind? Polite? Sweet? Funny? Or were you harried, running around wondering why this email didn't get to you, wondering what your office was doing without you there, always checking your cell phone for that missed opportunity?

PLEASE remember that, once the inevitable happens (and it will) and we are all in Heaven (I'm optimistic), it won't matter a hoot whether your email was answered.

There is a great saying that I am going to try to summarize here, so apologies in advance for errors. Any errors in this are mine. Oh well.

"When you are gone, it won't matter what you wore, how much money you made, what kind of house you lived in, what kind of car you drove, or what you did for a living. The only thing that will matter, and be remembered, is what kind of difference you made in the life of your family and your children. Your babies are your legacy to the world - make that your number one priority. Everything else is details that no one cares about."

So, if I inspire you, I am honored. I am humbled. And, I am grateful. To be given this opportunity to maybe help one person - I question why I was given this gift. But, I won't sit here for too long - I have too much to do. My angels are in bed, sleeping and dreaming. My husband is in bed, waiting for me to stop banging on the keyboard so he can go to sleep. And me? I am going to hit the sack for the night. I have things to do tomorrow - being inspiring is more tiring that you would think.

:-)
Comments:
Nancy said...
hi
August 11, 2008 at 5:31 AM
Blogger Nancy said...
Good morning Michelle....sorry its taken me so long to write.Inspiring?Well ya..lets see here your a young mom of two ,just into your new home,husband to tend to and now you are fighting that monster that took over your body.At the same time you are keeping all of us informed and started back to work, and are trying to get things started to inform other young people that yes it can happen to them also.I believe you can call your self inspiring sweetie.And that might be why you were the chosen one,you have the push to get the message out.God is with you sweetie and he will not let you fall.so I need to say that i believe you are inspiring .Keep me up on your days I feel like I am with you through the blogs.love always...In God We Trust.....LATER
August 11, 2008 at 5:39 AM

Monday, August 4, 2008

AUGUST 4, 2008

Back at Work


Well, today was my first day back at work. It was a good day! I was nervous, but it was fine. I think my nervousness came from how I was going to handle going back to work, how I was going to handle the questions, and how I was going to handle the inevitable exhaustion. 

As far as the exhaustion, it was a good kind of tired, something along the lines of when you are tackling a really large physical project (think painting your house, etc.), where you know you have accomplished something. There were questions, and while most of the people that stopped by were aware of the situation, it's very odd to have to tell people that I have cancer. I mean, I don't want to have to be the one to tell them, and I am certainly not looking for sympathy or anything. So, when most people ask where I have been, I tell them that over the Memorial Day weekend, I was diagnosed with cancer, and have been battling that beast for a couple of months. I figure if people ask me from there what kind, what the symptoms were, etc., then it's their fault if they don't want to hear about the blood in my stool or that I thought I had hemorrhoids. :-) 

Everyone was so nice about everything. My director Tiffany made me a huge batch of chocolate chip cookies, and they greeted me at the desk when I walked in. People kept stopping by to say hi (all except poor Vickie, who is sick with a cold - sorry honey!), and I was still able to get some work done. Around 10am, I was thinking - hey! I could do this all day! By noon - not so much. I was ready for a nice nap, which I still haven't taken. 

Overall, it was a good night, and I look forward to tomorrow. I have to get going now - it just dawned on me that I need to make my lunch for tomorrow and still iron some clothes. Hmph.

Sunday, August 3, 2008

AUGUST 3, 2008

Weekend Update

Well, this weekend was exhausting. We had friends in from California on Friday night and Saturday, and while you can rest and try to relax, it's hard when you have guests. Luckily, they are low-key people, and we were able to mainly enjoy their time here.

Saturday, we worked on bills with Mom and Dad, trying to figure things out. I tell you, cancer is expensive. People say kids are the most expensive thing in your life - um, they obviously haven't had cancer or are independently wealthy. While I have amazing insurance and am lucky enough to have a great disability plan, we are still paying out copays every chemo session ($90 every two weeks), copays for RXs (usually, about $70/month), gas to and from the drs appts, chemo, etc., not to mention the co-insurance for everything until the deductible kicked in. Overall, it's not in the thousands (yet), but the costs do add up. I know we are lucky, and I shouldn't complain, but still....

Anyways, Sunday was spent going through Julia's and Kevin's dressers to try to sort out old from new, what fits and what doesn't, and to figure out what Julia needs for school NEXT WEEK! Yikes. Luckily, she is in really good shape, and needs minimal additions to the diva closet.

I also spent the day getting ready to go back to work tomorrow. I know this seemed like a really good idea two weeks ago, but now that I am tired from the weekend, it doesn't seem like such a positive move. (Just kidding!) I know it is, and I welcome with open arms the normalcy, but boy - this is going to kick my butt. Dressing up for work? Setting the alarm? Packing my lunch? Whew - I forgot how tiring work can be! LOL!

This weekend, from a cancer perspective, was okay. Still nauseous from the chemo, and definitely still tired. But, while it takes a bit longer for the symptoms to go away, I feel like I am getting a handle on them. I know this will change next week for round 5, but let me live in my fantasy world. :-) I started having issues with mouthsores again this weekend, and then remembered the "swish and swallow" mouth wash, so I started using that diligently again. It seems to help, though I still have a sore throat and am going to call my primary care physician tomorrow, just in case. The nausea isn't too bad unless I forget to eat, which doesn't impress me. I am terrified of gaining weight during this ordeal (I know, of all the things to be worried about), especially since I am craving salt and sweet. Why couldn't I crave carrots and celery? But, I am really trying to eat better things, like fruits and whole-wheat crackers, so we'll see how this goes.

I think that's about it. I can say that the hair loss is still pretty slow, but there. I notice the tingling on scalp here and there, so I am pretty sure that we are still on our way to bald-dom. The funny thing - the new hair growth I have? Yeah - it's coming in a sort of strawberry-blonde. Hmph. At least it's not ALL grey!
Comments:
Hi Michelle... thinking of you as you start your first day back to work. I remember returning after my leave of absence, just take things slow and LET PEOPLE HELP YOU! They all care about you and it is their way of helping.
I have to let you know that you are an inspiration and everything that you have been going through will help other people - including someone very close to me : ) She will be reading your blog as she starts chemo - we already looked at it this weekend and she was getting some good tips and ideas from you : )
love ya
jen
August 4, 2008 at 7:10 AM


Friday, August 1, 2008

AUGUST 1, 2008

Round 4 Round Up


Well, while I can't say that I look forward to the next chemo treatment, I will say that this round was better than the last one. Tuesday of course sucked, with the AC being out. However, the AC guy came back on Wednesday and fixed it (bless his little heart) and we are all back up and running and cool-er (we are in the midst of a heat warning).

Wednesday's chem took a lot out of me, and while I was able to fight the good fight on Tuesday, Wednesday was mainly get to chemo, get home, eat, sleep. I went to Trader Joe's on Wednesday morning to pick up some of their ginger items (mainly ginger chews, cookies, and candied ginger) to help with the nausea, but after you have been sucking on it for three days, it kind of loses it's appeal, whether it helps or not. The ginger did help, but it didn't take it all away.

Thursday was actually the worst day. Lots of nausea, lots of exhaustion. And, I had an appt with Dr. O, who was very understanding. Thursday was weird - when I took my shower, I had a lot of tingling in my scalp. And, that means - loss of hair. The hair is definitely thinning, and I imagine it will continue to do so as this wears on. (Yes, Sharon, pictures will follow shortly!) For now, it's okay, but it's definitely going to get thinner. Oh well - as long as it means that the chemo is working, right?

What else? More of the neuropathy this week, too. For those of you that aren't aware, neuropathy is a wonderful side effect of chemo that causes tingling, numbness, etc. in your extremities. This could be temporary or permanent, and there really isn't much that can be done about it. Here's hoping it's temporary.

The heartburn wasn't nearly as bad this time out - the last couple of rounds, the heartburn was worse than the nausea. But, I think I have a method of dealing with it, and if not, I have to go see another GI doctor, upper this time. Fun.

I think that's it. The exhaustion kicked my ass this time - I mean, I slept the entire day away yesterday, and finally woke up this morning feeling semi-normal. It was this all-encompassing, complete, no-way-around-it exhaustion that is unlike anything I have ever experienced before. But, the good news is that as long as I am sleeping, I am not nauseous. Wooo!!

Met with Dr O. yesterday, as I think I mentioned earlier. It went well - all of my blood work has come back looking really good, and the tumor markers continue to go down! My red blood cell counts are declining slowly, so I imagine that I will be anemic here before too long. They have an injection that I can get to help with that.

Side note - it seems very odd to me that of all the people to get stuck with this thing, it's me. The one whose Dad had to hold her down to get two shots when she was 18. (Honest - you can ask him.) Now, here I am with a port in my chest, getting poked every two weeks, with lab work every three weeks, PET scans, injections, etc. Really - I don't think a medal of honor would be out of place here. :-)

Anywhoo, Dr. O. thinks that all is well. She encourages me going back to work, though she did warn me against starting anything else. So, no marathons this year. :-( But, I am going to continue to try to market for the Undy 5000, as much as my body allows me.

I think that's about it. I am pretty tired today, but not as much as yesterday. Each day gets a little better - that's what I keep telling myself. And, look at it this way - I AM 1/3 OF THE WAY THROUGH CHEMO!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS TO ME!!!!!!

And, I get to go back to work on Monday. I can't wait. To those of you there, see you at 9am on Monday morning!!!